Wednesday, September 20, 2006

If you can not say anything constuctive....

This is making me mad. Everyone needs to go read the statement about the purpose of this blog. It is for those who were deeply affected by LFF, most in a not so positive way. It absolutely is not for those of you who try to belittle us and our very real pains and scars. We have never needed to, nor will we continue to try and justify or explain our very real turmoil and pain to you. If you are content with LFF now or your experiance, then please shut up. For some of us, this is our only way of dealing with the pain that happened. We left your church and all it contains. We do not need you to follow us and insult or harrass us any longer. Let us try to deal with our lives as best we are able. And if someone feels the need to say that expressing my story was me being a "whiner" or a "weiner" then have the stones to tell me to my face. If you dare, you can ask me for my contact info.

Gene Spaulding

6 comments:

Innocence Destroyed said...

We have been fairly lenient on deleting posts. Some of the posts have gotten rather confrontive, and it is hard to see people asking questions that hurt other posters. But we really think that it is part of the process. Some people have come to the blog with the intent to correct us, and have spent the time to read through all of it. They have changed their mind and now support us. Others have not changed their minds, but that is alright. I think that it is OK to question people about their posts, just no personal attacks, please. We will delete inflamitory posts.
BTW, the nature of blogging is that the blog can take detours from time to time (remember the PCS conversation). But let's keep it on target as much as possible.
DPR!!!!

Anonymous said...

Eugene, I agree with you in that when you're in the hospital healing you don't want people bouncing on your bed telling you how great they feel. You also don't want people yelling at you to get over it and get out of bed. Neither do you want people scolding you that you imagined the whole thing and should never have been in bed in the first place. You want to be able to get well and enjoy the company and encouragement of others who are in the same healing process. On the other hand, it's proably a good thing to hear from those who disagree or can't relate. I think it's wise to remain open-minded and willing to listen to another perspective besides our own.

Anonymous said...

Eugene,

This is Lael...I loved talking to you and meeting your family when you were in town. I would love to stay in touch. Email me at gatewood@wsu.edu

Anonymous said...

DPR,
Why would you say this "BTW, the nature of blogging is that the blog can take detours from time to time (remember the PCS conversation)." Of everyone that was ever hurt by LFF, it would be the PCS group that was damaged the most, why would you take something that was helpful and healing to so many ex PCS students and belittle it. Don't you think we got enough of that growing up there.

Innocence Destroyed said...

It is so easy to mis-understand in written comments what someone is trying to say. I want to make it clear that I value the PCS comments and the whole discussion that went on the blog there. In fact I have been trying to find the PCS blog, is it still going on? Please repost the address for it if it is still active. I was simply trying to let Gene know that it is OK if the blog wanders down a rabbit trail from time to time. In fact it is the nature of the beast. Please keep sharing your stories.
DPR!!!

Anonymous said...

This is the addy I have:
http://expcsers.blogspot.com/

It doesn't look like it is used much. Maybe it was moved somewhere else?