New avitar
It is interesting that the web people at LFF decided to change the photo that we used as the avitar for Innocence Destroyed. It is a little remeniscent of how we felt about the plastic faces the greeeters put on to greet everyone at the door. Thank you for the laugh!
ARRGH!!! DPR Lives!!!
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OH, I'M SORRY, DID I BREAK YOUR CONCENTRATION?
I had wondered why it was changed. I had a similar thought about the fake puppet like behaviour we experienced at LFF - as receivers and as givers.
The clown was laughing at the fact that it took you three days to notice it.
So, you are saying you all knowingly changed the avatar to something that was possessed enough to recognize that we didn't respond immediately so began to laugh at us? Bold move. Welcome to the dark side, LFFer.
Actually believe it or not, those of us who read the blog don't look at it everyday.
But on the other hand, I didn't like the fact that they used the LFF building anyway. Thank you for changing it. Keep the blog going even if they play dirty tricks. That was pretty childish.
Please describe to us your stealthy stealthy act of venegance and sabotage cuz both those things are so very Christ like.
Does anyone besides me realize how ridiculous this argument is? You're arguing who is the more Christlike by insulting each other. Nice.
I have no claim to being Christ-like. I just felt the need to point out that their actions were not.
A devil's advocate maybe...
I guess I am naive... will someone please explain what LFF had to do with the changing of the picture (avitar) ...from what I understand that is controlled by the admin of the blog... I am totally confused
From what I can gather, they figured out how to remove the avitar and replaced it with a Charlie McCarthy type puppet thing. Then the DPR changed it to what it is now...I don't know how they did it though. Perhaps a techie type can explain. I find it all perplexing myself.
The avatar is hosted in a different location. The picture is not actually held on the blogger server, it is a link to where the picure exists. So when you load this page, it pulls the picture form its location as it is instructed. The picture that was originally there was being pulled from the LFF website. So, by changing the image that the link pointed to, it pulls a different picure. In short whenever you used to visit, an image was pulled straight off the LFF server. After almost a year, some genius at LFF figured out they were hosting the image and this site was freeloading off of their servers so they changed the image to something stupid. Rather than updating the link to pull from the previous image's new location, it appears the new admin just put up a new picture that is hosted somewhere else completely. I hope that wasn't confusing. Keep up the good work admin, thanks for keeping this going.
Yes, I should have been more detailed about what happened. The old avitar was sourced at the LFF website. They had access to their own files and changed the photo there to the clown. It would have been funny if they forgot to change the file name for their web site so the clown would have come up there too!
Never fear, they have no access to the administration of this site.
ARRGH!
DPR!
I hope they got some pleasure out of that. Personally, I have found much better ways of enjoying life.
I am not sure where to post this so I will do it here.
As I was reading through the comments here and recalling my (few) experiences with the the Vances, I recall two incidents that made me question LFF in such a way that while I continued to attend, but didn't have complete buy-in.
One was for a service day - I think it was an all hands on deck kind of event one evening and I was helping out in the office at the new building. We were printing envelopes for something. Anyways, Phil, Joe F and I think a Weaver came in to Phil's office. They were going on about some incident with the community and Phil was not using pretty language. I think they noticed me and either closed the door or got right with God in their word choices. I think it had to do with some complaints about residents parking in the street just to the one side of the new building and them getting ticketed because of LFF.
The other was at Sally Mildren's house, for Amber Marchant's (now Akin) bridal shower. This was Spring of 1996 (maybe 1997). Anyways, Kari was there as Amber was one of her favorites. And she was in just a pissy mood and was talking about someone else that was in a bad mood. And this makes me shake my head each time I think of it (and chuckle a little) - she said that the women was just being a gritch. I think I looked confused and she said something along the lines of indicating she meant bitch but you just don't say that as a Christian. Apparently, though a gritch is better.
YEah, there was a lot said that was okay when THEY said it.
Um, how do you guys deal witht the doubt that someone loves you? You know I am so needy. I need approval for everything. I think the coolest man htat I hav eever met is aobut to end it with me cause for one I can't believe that someone this amazing could love me. after all I was never good enough for the 'amazing' men at Lff. SO I am constantly needing to be reassured and he is getting tired of it. I am so messed up. I Was told that no one could ever love a fat girl. This was after I had lost 40 pounds. So how can I ever believe that xomeone could love me? 10 years of never being good enough
It breaks my heart to see the pain you suffered at LFF and the residual effects of their judgments on your life to this day. Know that you are person that is lovable and worthy of this man in your life. I would be honest with him about your experiences at LFF and the insecurities you were made to live with for 10 yrs. And I think it might be good to seek a therapist that can help you build your self esteem so you can honor yourself and this man that loves you.
Did any of the Barden's have the audacity to say that no one could ever love a "fat girl"??!!! Anyone hear a kettle?
I hope you realize that this was just their own insecurity speaking. It really had nothing to do with you. You just happened to be there to hear them reflecting their own self hate.
Sometimes you have to love and accept yourself in order to accept the love of others. When we hate ourselves because we do not live up to the expectations or supposed perfection of others we have a hard time loving ourselves. This may sound like secular wisdom but it's so true. Maybe you need some time to feel good about yourself because God made you a beautiful person inside and out. That sounds cliche but it's reality. We cannot see past our outer shell and get bound up inside because of it. We do and say things we shouldn't to those who show genuine interest in us because we are trying to protect ourselves from the pain of disappointment. Yet it is that very self protection that is not allowing us to have loving relationships. If you really love this person open up to him, be vulnerable. He needs you as much as you need him. Realize that you are filling a need in his life as well. He is just as needy but may hide it better. Know that you are loved by God and that being overwieght is not truly who you are. Do not base your self worth on this. Sometimes we eat to satiate unmet needs for love and acceptance. Choose life! You are worthwhile! You do matter! Muster up some self confidence and make a choice today that you will not live your life by what other people say and think but by the strength of God dwelling within. You will not gain confidence by relying on others to tell you that you are worthwhile it will only make you more needy for words of encouragement. Confidence comes from within.
Thank you.
So interesting. I was overweight at lff and when I brought up with oversight that I wanted to lose weight I was told I had a problem with skinny people. They made me feel like it was a spiritual problem, a distraction to spiritual things I should be thinking about. It was the first time I'd ever mentioned losing weight, so I decided it wasn't a good subject to bring up. So I never did again. I'm sorry that someone said something so horrible to you. I'm still overweight, and I struggle like you, understanding how my husband can love me. Not because lff told me what they told you, but because I have some self hate going on as well, with my image and not measuring up in so many ways in life. I do know that my husband is sincere when he says he loves me, and I trust him that he's telling the truth, and I love it that he tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me, even if I struggle to love myself. Count your blessings. Trust your husband's words, and be grateful that he does love you. Guys don't bother to say fluff, they say what they mean. I'm sure he thinks you are a beautiful treasure, don't discount his words.
Another strange oddity at lff. I was in an "intense" meeting with oversight at one time where I was supposed to be broken, confessing sin, repenting, I was crying and was told to quit it, that I was acting immature, like a child. I later told my roommate about the experience and she was surprised, because she had a meeting with the very same person in oversight and was supposed to be broken, confessing sin, etc. and was told "Why aren't you crying?!" Apparently tears were supposed to show she was broken. What's up with that? I wish I would have clued in earlier to the madness of it all. But then I wouldn't have married my great husband who loves me and thinks I'm beautiful, even in my plus size body. Love is not limited by size, definitely not by worldy standards of beauty.
Counseling is not a bad thing either! LFF begrudged it, but only because it took control away from them, and the potential to expose their spiritual malpractice. Hang in there.
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